This week’s Psychology Around the Net explores the powers of gratitude, the benefits of stress, the problem with those “harmless” lies your parents told you as a kid, red flags your job is harming your mental health, an exact musical formula you can follow to feel better, and more.

The Power of Gratitude and How It Raises Your Happiness Level: As American Thanksgiving quickly approaches, many of us pause to focus on our blessings in life. But when Thanksgiving dinner is cleared away, will you continue to think about what you have rather than what you don’t have? Studies have demonstrated the power of contentment and gratitude on the human psyche. But how does one get started with a gratitude practice? And how does it raise happiness levels?

Under Pressure: How Stress Can Change Our Lives for the Better: All stress is bad, right? Not necessarily. A certain kind of stress, called “eustress,” can increase alertness and performance, and without it, our lives would be dull and meaningless, say psychologists. In fact, with a simple change in perspective, we can learn to convert harmful stress into eustress, making our lives feel more exciting and challenging, rather than draining.

Being Lied to By Your Parents in Childhood Predicts Social Challenges in Adulthood: “If you swallow your gum, it will stick to your gut for 7 years.” “If you don’t come with me now, I’m leaving you here by yourself.” Did your parents ever tell you a “white” lie? A new study published in the Journal of Experimental Child Psychology, suggests these so-called harmless lies may not be so harmless after all. 

18 ‘Red Flags’ Your Job is Hurting Your Mental Health: Do you find yourself feeling really low on Sunday nights before the workweek starts? Do you feel lonely, paranoid or dissociated at work? If so, you’re not alone. In this Yahoo! article, community members share the moment they knew their job was taking a toll on their mental health.

New Study: 78 Minutes of Music a Day Improves Mental Health: We all know that music makes us feel better, but in a new study, researchers really break it down and tell us how to optimize its mental health benefits. First, you need to listen to several genres of music for at least an hour and 18 minutes a day. But that’s not all, there is a specific music formula you can follow to achieve certain moods.

Swiping Right and Left: Is Technology Reshaping Romance?: Surveys show that more than a quarter of millennials now meet their romantic partners through dating apps. But how are these new dating technologies changing our most intimate lives? Is “shopping” for a person online — much like shopping for a new coffeemaker — a harmful practice?